Don’t join us.

Posted on By Isabell Marin

Don’t join us if you are like them.
We all know how they interact nowadays.
Social media is the new reality.
Who cares if you are a great talker, a trustful person, a funny guy or a genuine human being?
You are no one if you don’t interact through your black mirror.
So don’t join us.

Keep looking at your screen.
It doesn’t matter if it’s real or not because it looks beautiful.
Stop talking to people on your way home, just keep looking at your screen because you are missing so much if you stop doing it.
Go out but don’t forget to check your phone at least every ten minutes.
You might miss the last picture of someone’s food, someone’s training or someone’s holidays.
Check your online dating app just in case someone new has joined.
Enjoy your lunch but not too much because someone else’s lunch looks so much better in that beautiful picture.
Check again because the person you just crossed paths with could be on that app and you can match them to start a conversation.
Don’t talk directly to him or her because it might feel real.

Don’t join us if you don’t want to establish real connections.
Don’t join us if you are not looking for real people.
Don’t join us if you are not looking for genuine experiences.

VEE is about connecting people, about real experiences, about people who go out of their comfort zone by living in the present.
You need to be brave enough to live this life fully.
We don’t do screens, we do people.

Go real, go VEE! Visit Vee International for a #NewWaveDating experience.

Sound Is Love’s Truest Expression!!!

Posted on By Sivamathavan

Taste, Touch, Sight. Those are the three senses that are considered sexually desirable. However, to hear the sound of a whisper from your lover can be just as sensual. Like a sea along the beach the tones of you lover’s voice can move waves across your back. The soothing voice of your lover can cause the hairs to rise like a blossoming flower.

‘If Music Be The Food Of Life Play On!’ Let its power and mystery provide you with sexual healing. The most romantic form of sound is Music. Music has played a significant influence from Greek culture to the modern era in order to seduce the human ear. It is what helps amplify the sensations as well as dictate the way in which we move. We call this wonderful movement ‘Dancing’. By enhancing these sensations it creates sexual desires intensifying the romantic bond between two individuals. BARRY WHITE said it best: ‘There’s people making babies to my music. That’s nice.’ No truer words have been heard.

What is making love without the fanfare? It is lightning without thunder. Sound undoubtedly is love’s truest expression. To end with the legendary MARVIN GAYE himself: ‘MUSIC, NOT SEX, GOT ME AROUSED’

See, taste and fall in love.

Posted on By Misheel

We, humans, have 5 senses: sight, hearing, touch, smell, and taste. With the help of our senses, we recognize what is happening around us. One of the most important senses is a sight. We see everything through our eyes and respond to it. The moment when an individual sets eyes on another is what triggers all the other senses. As ironic as it sounds, we must not judge an individual by their looks. It is what we see that determines whether we should make the first move or not.

But what if we blindfold our eyes? What if we cover our most important sense? What will happen to our other 4 senses? The other 4 senses will heighten and our brain will adjust to it. How would you judge the other person if you cannot see what they look like? Can you fall in love with someone without looking at them and only hearing their voices or touching them?

Then what if we try and guess the food blindfolded? Will you guess the foods correctly? Will your other senses help you to guess the food or will they fool you? Come and join us this October for our Halloween Special event to heighten your other 4 senses and be a part of the blindfolded food tasting challenge. You may find the one that you have been looking for.

How radical honesty will help you!

Posted on By Yser

How radical honesty will help you?

 

As human beings who live in a society and a town as big as London we know how communicating is becoming more and more difficult. And we all know why! Well, we sure do know one of the reasons: People are not honest with each other anymore! Whether it is because we are afraid to hurt people’s feelings or to say the ugly truth.

Let’s focus on relationships, loved ones for example. People wait to know each other better before becoming more honest but it should be the opposite. Just imagine this, if since day 1 you have been brutally honest with each other what could you be really afraid of? At least you’ll be sure of one thing is that no matter the person in front of you is frank and isn’t it one of the pillars of a relationship? And it can be the good too: compliment your crush, your partner spontaneously.

And that way of thinking is something we are trying to bring at VEE as we want to help you create a strong relationship but put our little twist on it as always!

Wednesday 26th of September, the place to be is the Sway Bar London for our #VEEVariety event at 7PM with a little game of radical honesty. Just come and see how it goes. You might be surprised.

Be positive, be sincere, be spontaneous

Simply be yourself

Leave the diplomacy at home but bring authenticity and brutal honesty!

 

Love yourself by dancing bachata

Posted on By Misheel

Dance is something you cannot explain in words. It is something you have to feel. Every dance style has such a different emotion. It brings out a side of you-you never knew you had, it helps you grow, be more confident, trust yourself and those around and it teaches you to be yourself and express yourself.

Bachata is a style of social dance originating in the Dominican Republic and is danced all over the world. Bachata is a much more sensual dance than Salsa. The music itself is more about love and heartbreak which brings out those emotions. Bachata has much more body isolations, waves and as any dance, it’s all about playing with the music and expressing yourself to it with a partner.

It teaches you to explore yourself, to be more confident and express that with your partner. It is a great dance to do because to have a successful relationship you have got to love yourself and your body. Dance teaches you that. It gives you the kind of confidence and freedom nothing else can. Everything in the world fades away when you dance with the right person to the right song.

Join us on the 29th of August to explore and express yourself by dancing Bachata at VEEVariety.

The Second Date: A guide to pairing when wining and dining.

Posted on By Teddy Knowles

Sommelier or casual admirer, everyone can appreciate a good wine, but sometimes wine alone isn’t enough to impress a newly found love interest. It may need that extra flair of flambéed scallops, or just a touch of spice from a thai curry. Either way you can’t wine and dine with just the wine, so here are some quick tips on making the perfect match for your wine on your dinner date.

The 2 Cs: 2 terms you need to know for pairing success.

The first ‘C’ we will be discussing is ‘Congruent’. Congruent pairings share similar chemical structures with each other, and create a palette that warmly embraces the flavour of the food and wine. The most common indicator of this type of pairing is congruent with a dish is the colour; red meats pair with red wines, white meats pair with white wines. Simple, just as dating should be. Next is congruent’s partner in crime, contrast, which as the name implies, means using antonymous flavours to scintillate the senses. Although it may be tricky at first to discern which wine is a direct contrast to a dish, with your newly found wine tasting skills you’ll find the right Syrah for your salmon and impress your Pinot partner.

If it grows together, it goes together.

By in large, most wine varieties are grown with the local cuisine in mind, so that bottle of old Italian Pinot Grigio was destined to be paired with a chicken pesto, and the Spanish Rioja longs to be reunited with some sliced chorizo. Let this simple trick reveal your cultured side and take your date on a taste adventure from the intimacy of your home.

If you’re stuck in a dilemma, sparkling wine pairs with almost everything.

There you are, table set, beef wellington coming along nicely. You glance into the fridge and there it is; the empty slot in fridge the door where your bottle of Napa Cabernet should be.
In your moment of dating despair remember this tip! To add that extra level of culinary glamour to your dish, sparkling wine is a good failsafe. The light and stimulating texture of the bubbles can help clear your palette after a hearty meal, whilst the citrus tones can add the extra sparkle to a lighter entrée.

Sweet wines get you through spicy times

Due to the high acidity of sweeter wines (such as Riesling), it can easily reduce the amount of residual fats and proteins such as capsicum, and allow you to retain your composure, even in the hottest of dates.

Why wine is your wingman and wingwoman

Posted on By Oluwakemi

Wine, vin, or vino, in the romantic languages. With this drink in your arsenal you will always be in a good mood, not only because of the boost it gives to your omega-3’s, but because wine is an aphrodisiac, meaning a stimulant of sexual desire. Red wine contains organic compounds called amines, such as histamine which is linked to sexual drive.

Research in Finland, at the Universities of Helsinki and Tampere discovered in a study of 2,600 aged 18-69, a link between those who had a glass of wine at dinnertime, and higher self-esteem.

Before you take a sip, take a whiff as wine has been found to contain many of the aromas which arouse us. Different scents entice women, for example cherry or musky scents, and men for example the smell of vanilla or lavender. Remember that night when- among other things- you had a spectacular glass of *insert spectacular wine*? Olfactory memories is where your body unconsciously uses smell to trigger memory. Therefore, smelling the spectacular wine at a later point should bring back those fabulous feelings. If not, you did not sniff the wine hard enough. So remember, whiff before you sip!

This beverage increases your libido, and according to a 2016 study by Harvard University and the University of East Anglia, red wine lowers the chance of erectile dysfunction by 19%, owed to organic compounds called flavonoids.

It makes you more attractive.
A little does a lot. Only a glass, is needed to create this state of increased attractiveness. Visible changes include flushed cheeks and exuding a rosy glow. This is according to a 2015 study by Bristol University, in which participants were asked to rate the physical attractiveness of individuals before and after wine consumption photos. Those who had consumed a low volume of wine were deemed more attractive then when they were sober. Per contra, more glasses were found to reverse the effect. Which confirms what we already know, being full on inebriated is still not a good look, in any situation.

Wine is good for the heart, and health.
Antioxidants found in the skin of grapes shield your cells from potential harm by free radicals, which could otherwise contribute to diseases like cancer and heart disease. One such antioxidant, and a main ingredient within red wine, is called Resveratol, a defender against blood clots and damage. The effect of this substance on the body mirrors that of a physical workout, e.g. improved heart function and muscle strength.
Not only does red wine protect your heart, it protects your smile against dental disease by killing harmful bacteria, thus keeping gum disease and tooth decay at bay. This is based on research published in the Journal of Agriculture and Food Chemistry.

So, wine can make you feel good, look good and is good for you health-wise. If these are not the ideal attributes of a wing (man or woman), I don’t know what is.

The key to keeping wine your ally and not your saboteur is to drink it moderately!

Wine Tasting – A Beginners Guide

Posted on By Anisha

Getting to know someone over a glass of wine is a perfect idea not only because it is considered a very social drink, but because discussing wine itself can help you get over the initial nerves when talking to a new romantic interest. This guide goes through the basics of wine tasting etiquette, giving a breakdown of all you need to know.

During wine tasting you unlock your senses, beginning with sight. Look at the colour and opacity of the wine; you can unpack a lot about it though its appearance. For example, lighter white wines are pale in colour whilst full-bodied white wines have rich more golden tones. Additionally, light hued red wines are less opaque and are light-bodied, and dark hued red wines denote a fuller body.

Next swirl and smell. By swirling your glass, you allow the wine to ‘breathe’ by adding in oxygen. This opens up the flavour and is considered as improving its taste. Your nose is the key to your palate when tasting wine since a lot of your satisfaction in relation to wine is through its smell. Use this time to try to identify the notes of the wine, you can discuss with others to see if they pick up on any other notes.

Now the moment you have been waiting for, sip. The standard method to this is to roll the wine around your mouth whilst sucking in air, this allows the wine to hit the different areas of the tongue. You may be experience some sweet, acidic or bitter flavours – to take it all in, small sips are encouraged so that you can completely experience all the flavour it has to offer.

The final step is to savour and this comes from the sensation you get from swallowing the wine. This taste can differ from what you identify on your palate. At this stage, you look for the length of time the wine taste lingers with you. Take this moment to reflect and assess upon what you have just had.

Here are a few additional tips for when you attend a wine tasting event, be sure to not wear any overpowering fragrances as this can take away from the experience. Also hold your glass from the stem so that your hand does not warm up the wine. Most importantly immerse yourself into the experience, keep an open mind and enjoy your company; wine tasting is a great way to socialise and connect with different people.

Now you’ve been equipped with the basics, you can show off and build upon your new skills at our wine tasting events! The great thing about wine tasting is that you can share your knowledge as well as learn from others, which makes it a great way to break the ice!

Top 10 Tips for First Date Success!

Posted on By Isabell Marin

1. Your purpose

Before you meet that person you need to be honest with yourself. Why do you want to date them? What is the purpose of meeting someone new? This will help you to have your goals clear enough so you can later compare if that person is on the same page, on the same book in a different library.

You are more than free to change your mind once you meet the person so it’s not about setting up your mind in a way that you can’t change, it’s about knowing yourself and what is your drive for dating.

2. Have as much fun as possible

Dating is supposed to be fun. Whatever your reason for dating, the final goal is to have a great time. No one dates expecting to have a hard time so, even if it’s obvious, remember that it’s not a serious thing.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself as it won’t help you at all. If you have the fear of not being liked or accepted, don’t worry, it’s fine, everyone struggles with that and if that’s the case it doesn’t mean you are doing it wrong, it just means the person in front of you is looking for something different. Remember there are plenty of people on this planet and everyone is free to give their opinion but they are not necessarily right.

3. The outfit 

Feel free to wear whatever you like. Who is going on a date? You or your neighbour? You rather feel comfortable being who you are. Dressing to impress it’s just a myth. Maybe the person you are meeting doesn’t like your clothes, maybe she or he doesn’t care that much or maybe they are difficult to be impressed.

But try to remember that there is no second chance to meet someone for the first time. So if you want to feel sexy/comfortable/sassy, just do it your way.

4. You are not your thoughts

On a first date it is usual to feel excitement and nervousness. If you don’t, you are a lucky person but if you go through these feelings of insecurity you are completely normal.

The good thing is that most of the time people aren’t as hard on us as we are with ourselves. We are usually our worst enemy because of the things that we tend to say to ourselves.

Our internal dialogue looks like this “I should be funnier”, “I am not cute enough”, “I should have bought that shirt for the date”, “I look like a bag of rags, I’d rather call them and cancel”

We all have had these kind of thoughts. Breath in and breath out. You need to keep in your mind that this person accepted to go on a date with you. Full stop.

5. Choosing the right place

This should be agreed by both parties. Somewhere between homes so it is equal for both, as a general ‘rule’. But maybe you don’t want a standard date.

A good piece of advice is meeting in a place that’s convenient to leave or to do something where there is an option to finish earlier. That way if things are not like you expected you can get up and go. Perhaps you could meet for a coffee at a cute cafe or a small drink at an original pub.

But if you meet to have dinner and you feel uncomfortable and not brave enough to leave soon, at least you will need to finish your food. That part is up to you.

6. Breaking the ice

The first time you meet this person can feel unusual because you want everything to be perfect. But I need to say that there is no such thing. There is no formula to have the perfect date because you are the one who needs to find out what you would like.

The best ice breaker is actually breaking the physical boundary. If you are brave enough you can introduce yourself by kissing them on the cheek.

7. What to talk about

Having an interesting chat can turn the most boring date into the best date ever. One of the things we find most attractive is a person who can stimulate our mind and spark our soul.

There are lots of things that have been said about the topics that can and cannot be used on a first date. “Avoiding politics, sports, religion and basically any kind of controversial topic” is the main old fashion rule.  But rules are made to be broken sometimes.

Everyone is different and generally it’s always risky but you can start asking the person about the basics. What they enjoy, what they like to do in their free time, where they live, which kind of job are they have…  This shows genuine interest and it helps you to know who are you with.

Obviously there is a time to ask and a time to be asked, the last thing you want is to feel or make someone feel like it’s a job interview. Who knows, maybe you end up talking about the facial cream you use, your last and beautiful relationship, the biggest lie you have told to your boss, your favourite sexual game, how you celebrated your birthday last year, or how much you been struggling trying to fit in this society.

The main rule would be to listen in a non-judgemental way.

8.Don’t be afraid of the silence, let it do it’s work

The vast majority of us think that being in silence is a sign of boredom, nothing in common with the person in front of you, or even worse, if there is empty space in a date it means it is not going well.

But when no one talks the opportunity of something else emerges. Maybe you notice their eyes how they look at you, the shape of their body, how good they smell, how they are sitting… basically you allow other things to happen and even if you feel uncomfortable it doesn’t mean it is something negative, there are actually more ways of communicating than just using your speech and they can be quite powerful.

9. Who pays?

Usually when you get to have a first date, unless you choose something different (doing some sports, going for a walk, visiting some museum), you usually end up in a place where you either drink or eat something.

Many people feel uncomfortable when it comes the time of paying. The best advice that we can give you it’s to split the bill or make rounds. If you or your date wants to invite the other to somewhere ‘expensive’ that’s completely fine as long as it is something you want to do/can do and not because you are ‘supposed to’.

10. The ‘goodbye’ moment

You need to take two things in account. What do you want and what does the person with you want at that moment. If the signs are not clear, it is always very useful to ask straight away whatever you need to know and to let the other person know how you are feeling and what you desire.

Communication is the only way to truly get the best out of a situation, if you don’t say it, they might not see it and you may both miss it.

Part Two: Finding yourself

Posted on By Isabell Marin

You and being able to know yourself is one of the most important relationships you are gonna take care of in your life. Some people call it self-esteem. It is that important that it will define the way you relate with others, the way you will look for a partner and the people you feel attracted to.

To know who you are and what you need, you need to take care of yourself. To be able to experience a truly good relationship with yourself, don’t just care about your body by dieting and doing exercise, the mind also needs some care to keep it healthy.
But, how do you know that you are going to develop a positive and real relationship with yourself? This will take you your whole life because, like all successful relationships, you always need to be working on it.

So here you have five simple clues to improve your self esteem;

  1. Having a notebook to write down three things every day for which that day has being worthwhile. They can be anything and they don’t have to be big issues, but those little things that make you feel better: a nice hot shower, a coffee in the morning, looking at a stranger in the train, talking with a friend, laughing at a funny tv scene, cooking dinner, enjoying a good book or just hearing the song you love on the radio.
  2. Talking to oneself kindly. As the language creates reality, we should not underestimate the power of our words. During the day unfortunate events will happen: dropping the food we were about to eat, forgetting the house keys or breaking something we love. 
The immediate reaction would be blaming ourselves. “I am a disaster! ” I get it all wrong “… All these thoughts are negative views about us that will trigger negative emotions causing discomfort, sadness and low self-steem perception. Changing our words is the key to succeed: “Well I’ve had this problem, but it is not disastrous“, “It can happen to anyone,” “It’s normal to make a mistake” … If the language becomes positive, the upcoming emotions will be positive as well.
  3. Living in the present. The past and the future are two states that can only be remembered or anticipated. But what truly exists is the present. And it is there where we can exercise our power. It is difficult to be aware of what is happening at any time. The best way to do it is by paying attention to ourselves and being aware of what we do and what we feel each moment.
  4. Writing 10 good things about yourself as a checklist and keep it to read them often. It may cost a little at the beginning, but 10 is a minimum that anyone should be able to find out.
  5. A ‘positive sentence closet’. 
Just as you have a closet full of clothes to wear as desired, each person should have a closet full of phrases or positive words towards oneself to use when appropriate because these messages of encouragement will truly comfort you if they are real and you believe them. It is about creating a personal mantra. The best way to create a mantra is to think about which kind of sentences would cheer you up. “I am a person who deserves to succeed”, “My attitude is positive,” “I feel great,” “I am happy”, “I am strong” … But we can also borrow sentences from movies, books and advertisements.

The road to building successful connections is basically yourself.

Part One: How to find your soulmate

Posted on By Isabell Marin

Finding your one–and–only

The most common way of existing in the society we live in is having a partner, or at least that is what we have been led to believe.

Surely you will remember more than one family member asking when are you going to introduce them to your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is something that people expect from you. We can feel forced by peer pressure to seek out a partner in life , making us feel down for not having one.

This idea has been introduced through films and stories, through the media, literature and our education, where a whole bunch of ideas are spread and believed. The idea of that perfect ‘partner in crime’, the importance of romance and love, the existence of princes and princesses and the significant fact that it is necessary to suffer for love.

As a result there is a myth that takes shape in our minds: “You need a partner to be happy.”

But this is a very personal election, since many people have other priorities in life than having a partner, which is very respectable. For these people, having a partner can even clash with the lifestyle they want to live, so they decide not to have it.

Having a partner is a choice. It is not something required or compulsory to fulfil your life. Actually, the only person you need to have a fulfilling life is yourself.

You can live perfectly without a partner. Your value as human being does not depend on having a one. It is just other part of the equation of life.

So there is nothing wrong with having a parter (or more), the advice would be;

“Be free enough to think outside the box, explore and don’t feel guilty if something different appeals to you because you have the right to be free”

To find like minded individuals or try something new visit V Exuberant Experiences now and begin your journey through the world of #NewWaveDating